Masturbation: It Can Be Overcome

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If you read the title, you’re probably cringing. Yes, I’m going to talk about the single most hushed over subject in Christian circles because I know some (ok, it’s more like all) of you are struggling with the habit. Now I could begin this post with an only for mature readers comment like I did for the one on pornography, but I think we all need to hear this. If you disagree, then stop reading, because I’m going in deep! For clarity’s sake, this goes for men and women.

Ok, confession time. Here we go….masturbation was a huge part of my life. For years I was stuck in the same cycle, and only a week ago did I make a solid decision to stop by joining the amazing community of Nofap. I’ve gone a week without it now, and I’ve never felt better. So why am I telling you all of this? Simple, I don’t want you to end up in the same rut I did. I want to encourage you.

I’m sure every person that has masturbated has felt intense guilt when the pleasure was over. I went through that cycle for years. I know what it feels like. It’s horrible. I’m sure a lot of Christians can be quick to condemn the action, but from personal experience, all that does is put us in more bondage. In fact, I was terrified to confess my habit to Christians because of how judgmental they can be about it, yet I could tell non-believers without shame. Guilt and condemnation never freed anyone, which is why Christ took it on the cross in exchange for grace.

But what about the question, “Is it a sin?” Quick answer: yes. If you feel guilt, it’s only because you are guilty. But to pin point the sin itself, it’s not in the action, but in the fantasies. The lust filled thoughts. That’s where the sin lies, because we’re objectifying women and using them for our own self pleasure.

Christians can use the excuse, “It’s not in the Bible,” to justify it, and no, it’s not explicitly mentioned. People also see the story of Onan in Genesis when he spilled his seed as talking about masturbation, but it isn’t about that at all. I think the Scripture that best portrays it is Romans 6:3 “Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin (masturbation): but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God (sex within marriage).” .

So how do we overcome? By yielding ourselves to God. By sacrificing our bodies and desires to God and exercising self-control and discipline. Masturbation is self pleasure, and the problem with that is the word, “Self.” It’s not giving to another person like intercourse in marriage does, it’s satisfying yourself. The flesh.

Another thing that can help other’s overcome is encouragement. Encourage those struggling in any way you can.

In the end, the final truth is that sin was defeated on the cross, and therefore no longer has a hold on us. We don’t have to give in, there’s victory in the blood and in the word of our testimony, and our testimony is that we are redeemed and freed from the hand of sin.

So to end, I want to encourage you to open up about the issue to your friends and family, and don’t feel ashamed because you gave in to natural desires. Know that there is victory. More are stronger than one. Together we can achieve it!

Discussion is open in the comment box, and I’ll encourage you in any way I can. Remember we’re in this together. You’re not a weirdo, you’re not perverted, you’re not going to be separated from God. And above all, you’re not alone.

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13 thoughts on “Masturbation: It Can Be Overcome

  1. Lucas, this post has spoken to me in more ways than you know! Thank you for stepping up, and being “the man.” Confession frees the spirit, and lightens burdens, but we must also remember that Jesus died for us so that we may give our burdens to Him completely. I know you realize this, but we mustn’t forget. I find, that when we lighten our burdens through confession to others, consultation and counsel from older Christians, it is then easier to deal with it. “Our strength is in you LORD!” Amen!
    God Bless, CJR Odyssey.

    1. Thank you CJR. You’re absolutely spot on, thank you for sharing your words. Sharing each other’s burdens is what the Lord has called us to do, and together we can lay them before the cross in redemption and freedom.
      Thanks for reading Corey, I’m glad I could encourage you as we fight together!

      And as a bonus, I have answered your question on the Q & A and the video will be up by lunch!

      God bless!

  2. Hey bro, Mum read that post and definitely liked how you stood up and talked about it. For me, I’m to afraid to say something. Haha. But I haven’t written a post because I have been into my writing, because my writing block moved, woo-hoo! But my story has had a change so big, that my title has changed, my story line has changed, my whole imagination in writing has hit the roof and also gone through. So I am now on 6,ooo words. God bless.

    1. Thanks mate, and thanks Mrs. godchangeslifes! That’s great to hear you’re writing again, but is it the same novel? It sounds completely different. Anyway, best of luck as you continue your writing journey. And don’t be afraid to confess, I’ll lift you up. We’re all here for you.
      God bless.

    1. I’m messing with you mate 😀 And yes, it’s to be advised, haha! I might reveal it to you around Christmas, but it all depends on how close I am to the finish. The name is too good to give away just yet 🙂

  3. Ok, ok, back on topic for a second. Luc thanks for being brave enough to post on this issue. It’s important at this time that Christians know they are not fighting these battles alone; and this IS a battle, one worth fighting! Young people especially, need to know that there is a remnant standing for purity and God’s way in a world that is so vocal in contradiction to His Word; it makes the battle more bearable knowing that your brothers are at your side.

    I wanted to share something on a practical note regarding this. A while ago, I was dealing with a “self-control” issue in my own life and was fasting in an effort to “subdue my flesh” and “bring it into submission”. God revealed that this is trying to fight in my own strength.

    Colossians 2:20-3:2 (and really all of Chapter 3 is worth reading) gives us the wrong way and the right way to overcome. I’m just going to post 2 relevant verses but please read the passage when you have time.

    Col 2:20b-21 “Why…do you subject yourselves to regulations – do not touch, do not taste, to not handle,”
    v23 “These things indeed have an appearance of wisdom in self-imposed religion, false humility and neglect of the body, but ARE OF NO VALUE AGAINST THE INDULGENCE OF THE FLESH”

    you will not beat the war in your flesh by trying to follow rules

    Col 3:1b-2 “seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.”

    Herein lies the key. If your eyes are fixed on God, you will no longer fulfil the desires of the flesh. Having a “go-to” scripture memorised that you can meditate on when Satan whispers in your ear, is a practical way to focus on God in the midst of the battle.

    God bless you, and I pray that you may continue to fight the good fight. The victory is yours in Christ!

    1. Thank you so much fivepeasinapod! This was probably my most difficult post to write but I knew so many are fighting this and I wanted to offer some encouragement. I’ll definitely read that passage and use those Scriptures in my fight. “If your eyes are fixed on God, you will no longer fulfil the desires of the flesh.” Exactly. The Lord is our ultimate pleasure! And as Mike Donhey from the band Tenth Avenue North says, “Why would we settle for instant pleasure, when there is the promise of greater pleasure?” That has also helped me a great deal.
      Thanks again for your words, and God bless!

  4. I’m very encouraged by this post. Thank you for addressing a topic that many in the church have seen as so taboo, and in doing so, have alienated so many people who struggle. It is so important to be open and honest about our struggles, and doing so frees others. Thanks for your openness.

    A book that really gave me a new perspective on sexual struggle and pornography/masturbation is Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle. by Michael John Cusick.

    1. Thanks panicpreacherpanic! I’m glad I could encourage you, and I agree, it’s sad the church has shunned the issue when so many young people (and some older) are struggling with it to the point that it is ruining their lives.

      I’ll check out that book, thanks for recommending!

      God bless, and thanks for reading 🙂

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