It’s no secret that confessing is one of the hardest things do to, but should we confess to one another, or hide ourselves behind a sheen of perfection?
If I had to point the single most terrifying thing the Bible tells us to do, it’s confessing our sins to one another. Thinking back to a time where I myself kept secrets unconfessed, I’ve been wondering why it’s so terrifying to let it all out.
We confess our sins all the time to God, and it’s easy. I’m sure we do it every day. But as soon as we put flesh to the person we’re confessing to, we freeze and pretend nothing is wrong. It’s easy to confess to God because as long as God knows, and I’ve confessed, no one else needs to bear the burden. He loves me, so He won’t see me in a bad light.
When I told those who weren’t Christian what I was doing, I won’t deny, it wasn’t too hard. Not easy, but it didn’t fill me with raging fear. However, when the impulse came to tell Christians, I couldn’t. The root of my fear came from the fact that Christians place an unreachable standard on one another. If we don’t live purely and according to the Word, we aren’t seen as ones who are following God. A lot of times, we hold a false perception of these people. We believe they’re the people who want to be a Christian, but don’t want to live like one. However, in most cases, this view is not the truth at all.
We all struggle. We all have our personal secrets (I even confessed mine right here on this blog, and it was the hardest post I ever wrote). We all have our personal sins on our shoulders, and everyone who desires Christ, hates its presence.
So again, how come it’s so hard to confess to our brothers and sisters? How come it was so hard to write that post? I believe that when we look at a family member or a friend face to face, and confess, we realize we can’t save ourselves. Confessing to Christ is easy, because we can still live our lives with no thought of our struggle, and pretend we’re doing well in our walk with God. But when we let out our sins to another human, that false screen is shattered, and we no longer have a wall to hide behind. When James said, “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed,” the healing he’s talking about is not from disease, but of being our own savior. When we confess, we’re forced to cling to Jesus, as we give the other the right to judge and ridicule.
Healing begins when we let everything go. Our false visages, our performances, our secrets, and we fall into the arms of grace. In confessing, we are saying that we are sinners, we are failures; but the good news is, the Gospel is not about our performance, but about His.
So I hope I can encourage you today to confess your sins to one another, and to those who listen to love them even more. It’s only from the fire that love can grow stronger than before.